Tuesday, September 17, 2013
He Doesn't Treat Me Good...But His Coin Does!!??!!??
A lot of women and men actually, will know at least one person this post applies to.."He Doesn't Treat Me Good... But His Coin Does!!"
What do you think? Is it okay to stay with someone because you like the way their pockets look despite how you're being treated? Is it okay to accept emotional and/or physical hurt because you can make a hefty purchase afterwards?
Sadly, this happens more than often. Some women I think get so wrapped up with "the life" of luxury that they loose focus on the fact that it should be about how a man treats you and not what a man can do for you! I'm sure I'm not the only one that has heard the stories of a women accepting almost anything from a man because he has money. Anything from blatant cheating, to emotional and/or physical abuse, disrespect, embarrassment etc. Some woman have a mentality of "If I'm going to be dealing with this bulls***, then at least its from a man with money cause a broke man will put me through the same thing"! Then you have the woman that's afraid to loose the ability to get what she wants when she wants so she stays! Oh, and lets not forget that women who thinks her "love clock" is ticking and is afraid she wont find anyone else. There are so many variations of different women and their reasons as to why they stay through it all for a pretty coin!
As a woman, I really don't get this concept!!! A man broke or rich can mistreat you, that's obvious. But, I believe it's what you allow that determines what you will receive. If you allow the cheating, the disrespect, the abuse mental and/or physical pain you endure, you will ALWAYS go through it! A man or woman will only do what you allow them space to do. STOP belittling yourself! STOP doubting yourself! STOP putting yourself through more pain then you have to! If a man wants to do anything for you, trust me, he will! But, why wait for a man to do for you? Have your own money and show him you can do for yourself (that's actually a turn on for some men). Not that you cant accept gifts, of course you can...don't be silly!! But, your focus should be on how he treats you first! Not only that, if you do for yourself then you wont look for a man to do what you can do! You've heard the phrase " I can finance myself...I need Loyalty" right? That's what a woman should be looking for in a man... love and loyalty!! When you have both love and loyalty, he'll buy you the world! When you accept monetary gifts and/or gifts in exchange for the pain they've cause you....you've let him know that his behavior is not only acceptable but also that he can repeat his actions as long as he buys you something nice!
I believe there is somebody for everybody. Everything doesn't happen when we want, but be patient. There's a good man willing to love you, treat you like a queen, spoil you with not only gifts but an abundance of love also! If you remember to love yourself first and foremost, be open and honest about what you're looking for and what you will not accept, show him you're a woman and that you wont accept anything less than to be treated as one at all times, then you will get just what you show you want! Notice I said show what you want instead of saying what you want!! Talk is cheap! But most importantly...remember you don't have to be unhappy and/or settle because you want a man with money or a man period! After all, if you're settling you're ultimately robbing yourself of happiness you deserve!
Until next time and as always...Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!