Energy Starts With Your Thoughts

"Happy people focus on what they already have - Unhappy people focus on                                                  what's missing!!!"

Quick MOS (Moral of the story): When you focus on what you don't have, what you THINK is missing, what you want/need... believe it or not you're inviting negative energy into your space because your mind is constantly on "why" instead of focusing on the things you have, or the things you once prayed for that will keep your mind on "THANK YOU"!!!!

You know the saying, "the mind is a powerful thing to waste" right? Well, that's very true because our thoughts produce our actions and if your thinking negative..... how do you expect to produce positive results??? 

Think positive - Reap positive!!! Trust me!! If you don't wanna take my word for it just try it out and see if your vibe or energy changes! 

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It's Completely Okay... Hit That #Reset Button!!

And it's as simple as THAT!!! Wanna know why? Because this journey of LIFE didn't come with an instruction manual. We simply have to do and learn! And in this process of "doing as we learn", we WILL make a mistake or two, hell maybe three, four or a shit load more!! But, it's OKAY!!!! Don't panic at every little thing that didn't work out according to your plan. Just means you have to move on to plan B or learn how A went wrong, fix the errors and try it again! 

Prime example: MY BLOG!!!! As I type this, I'm #RESETTING!!! I had some setbacks and technical difficulties with my blog and had to take time off to reset, re-adjust, re-focus and most important...RE-START!!!! 

As long as you are taking the time to re-analyze your decisions and movements in YOUR life, no matter how many times or how long it takes...YOU'RE MOVING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION!! 

So go ahead and hit that #RESET button on whatever it may be that needs some #RESETTING in your life right now.... goals, friendships, job responsibilities, relationship, savings, credit repair, exercise/diet regimen, etc.! 

DO IT TODAY!!! #RESET.... You owe it to YOU :)

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7 Cardinal Rules For Life

We all need a little reminding at times on how to approach situations, or how to keep a positive mentality etc. and I think these "7 cardinal rules for life" are pretty amazing!

These are NOT my words. I've seen this floating around on social media and thought I'd share because I definitely agree!

1. Make peace with your past- so it wont disturb your present or future.
2. What other people think of you- is NONE of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything- give it time.
4. No one is in charge of your happiness- EXCEPT you.
5. Don't compare your life to others- and don't judge them, you have NO idea what their journey is about.
6. Stop thinking too much- it's alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when it's time which is usually when you least expect it.
7. SMILE! You don't own all the problems in the world and the ones you do own.... some people wish that was the only worry they had. IT'S ALWAYS SOMEONE GOING THROUGH WORSE!!

I could elaborate on each one but, thought I'd leave it right there because as simple as they sound.... they are just as bold!

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Dear Ladies: STOP Letting the Unqualified In- You're Harming Your Womb

Do you believe in YOU? Do you believe that YOU deserve nothing short of the BEST? If so, then you should agree as much as I do with the above quote!

As women we often get side tracked by what we want as far as companionship, by social media's image of what's supposed to be or simply by paying attention to the lives of others more than we do our very own!! It's easy to fall victim to your own pity party not even realizing you're throwing one. By focusing on what you don't have and how bad you want it.... makes your inner spirit vulnerable and it becomes very easy to let toxic energy in, which in fact will harm your womb!

I think these three simple steps will not only help you to protect your womb so that you don't fall victim to "self inflicted pain", but will hopefully also open your eyes on what to do and what not to do making your life so much easier :)!!!!

#1- STOP settling just to say you have somebody!! Trust me, I get it! I really do!! We all want someone we can call our own. Someone to have our back like no other. Someone to come home to etc. BUT ... if you settle with someone that's not faithful to their word, not loyal to your relationship, doesn't show you constant love and support.....YOU'RE NOT PROTECTING YOUR WOMB!! By allowing this toxic energy in your life, you're only adding more stress and more pounds of hurt on your heart than you had being single (where they do that at??)! Use the idle time to not complain about what you don't have, or what you want and tired of waiting on but to instead focus on YOU!!! Tell yourself daily that you are worth it. Work hard towards your goals whether it be financial, health, career moves etc. Once your done accomplishing just a couple goals you set forth, you wont have time to entertain toxic energy!!!

#2- STOP letting social media society predict where you should be in life!! It's 2016 and a lot of people have that "social media-microwave society" mindset where we want everything NOW!! The career, the job, the house and of course...the spouse! What we have to realize is, social media is a place where people show you what they WANT you to see! It's not a life vlog where everyday or every waking moment is broadcast so of course it's gonna look peachy!! Just because it appears to be 100% on social media does not mean it's 100% in life! BIG difference! So don't get caught up in what you see online. Rushing into something is for sure harming your womb. Be patient! Don't accept bull**** because you're tired of being single and you're getting older blah-blah-blah...what's meant to be yours - will be yours! Everything happens when it's supposed to happen. 

#3- STOP watching others, keeping track of what their doing comparing your moves to theirs!!! I think this can be thee biggest mistake of all and yet the easiest way to harm your womb! Why? Because your life is NOT the next persons life! What they have has NOTHING to do with you and what you may or may not have! Just because your friend is married or in a relationship and you're not, does not mean their more ahead in life than you are! We all will have something that the next person doesn't and vice-versa. Be happy for the next person and all their happiness because a bitter heart doesn't produce love and if you're not producing love how will GOD see fit to send you love? Please believe....we reap what we sew. So, if you're sewing hate, it's simple....don't expect to reap love! It's like oil and water.....the two don't work!

Now, these three simple steps are simply my opinion to help you NOT accept toxic energy into your heart and life! It's pretty simple: Don't settle, Don't let social media predict your timetable in life and NEVER compare your life to the next person's. Buy doing these things, it's almost impossible to let the unqualified in! Unqualified meaning, not loyal, not trusting, not compassionate, not supportive, not encouraging, etc. There are so many "men" looking to take a seat wherever the chair is pulled out. Meaning, they have NO intention on being faithful but because your vulnerability is transparent and easy to play on... they play on it! So be confident in YOU, be dedicated to improving YOU, and most importantly be in love with YOU so that when real love comes knocking.... you already know what it sounds like cause cant nobody love you like you love yourself! 

Major Key: "You can't expect to "level up" when you're accepting beneath your level!"

Hope you guys enjoyed my thoughts on this post. If you have something to add, please comment or email:).

As always... Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!

Life Is About Growing

"Let Go and Let GOD"!!

We sometimes let our "comfort zones" get in the way of us prospering! We all have a comfort zone or two. Whether it be your job, your friends, your relationship etc.... if it isn't helping you prosper- YOU MUST LET GO, AND LET GOD!! Let go of the problem and let GOD guide your steps!

You cant continue to hold on to dead weight and expect your life to be elevated! (I.E.) When you have dead/split ends, you cut them off and THEN the growing process begins! When you plant a seed and the roots begin to grow but not in unison, you cut off the old weeds and THEN the plant begins to grow!

Treat your life as a plant! Water your soul with positivity, keep yourself in the light of success and most importantly.. let go of ANYTHING or ANYONE keeping you stagnant!!!

"Let Go and Let GOD"

The bigger your faith - The smaller your problem!!

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Happiness Is A Way Of Life

"Happiness is a choice!! You don't wait on it - You create it"

Nothing in life will make you happy until you truly decide to be happy!!! Some may ask what I mean by this. Well, in my opinion I feel that we control our happiness. Here are 4 simple ways to control your happiness:

1. Start your day thankful! Give thanks for waking up and being able to start over, to start what you didn't finish, to see and experience things that those cant. You'd be surprised at how simply changing your mindset at the start of your day will impact your day!!
2. Meditate!! Meditation is simply spending time with your inner self!! We often spend so much time focusing on our goals that we don't stop to focus on our accomplishments. Think about it....if you constantly ONLY focus on your goals, what you want to attain, or what you need to gain, you're constantly keeping your mind in a race which can cause frustration, confusion and or depression simply because it can get overwhelming. Now, I'm not saying by no means not to focus on your goals. All I'm simply saying is to take time out of your week to stop, sit back and appreciate your life and all that you have accomplished thus far. Whether the accomplishment be your job, a healthier lifestyle you've committed to, a bill you've settled, a house you've closed on, something you've worked hard to obtain etc. Because the more happy feelings you put into self, the more happiness you show :)!!!
3. ALWAYS know it could be worse!!! Yes life will throw you curve balls but it's not about how you get OUT the storm, it's how you got THROUGH the storm that matters!! So, when something "challenging" happens in life....remind yourself that it can be worse and there's always someone going through something harder than you are. Remember- the rainbow comes out AFTER the storm!!! 
4. And last but definitely not least.... ALWAYS show love to others!!! Be a positive force in your life!! Help someone in need. Give compliments when they're deserving! People may not remember everything about you, they may not remember your name, but they will ALWAYS remember how you treated them!! If you give positive energy, you reap positive energy! By you showing love, it shows others your happiness. It makes them wonder why is she always happy? Why does she constantly show love? And it also makes them want that same "thing"....happiness!

Now those were just a few things that I think will keep you in good spirits! Not a man, not a woman. Because at the end of the day.....this is YOUR life. You have to fully grasp the concept of "being genuinely happy" with or without companionship. Happiness starts within, with YOU! 

So, if you haven't been doing these things, give it a try because...... 

                  "Happiness is NOT a destination - it's a way of life"! 

As always....Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally :)

If You Have Just A Little...

Luke 17:6 -And the Lord said, "If you had faith like a mustard seed, you would say to this mulberry tree, 'Be uprooted and be planted in the sea'; and it would obey you"

Faith is EVERYTHING in life! We all have our own journey which of course will give us our our own testimonies. Each and every one of us have or at some point will encounter something that requires us to step out on FAITH!!! To have FAITH is to have strength! To have FAITH is to have trust and lastly....to have FAITH is to have patience that all will work out in his time! 

So don't hold onto yesterday's failure!!! When you have FAITH....yesterday holds no validation! Today's a new day :)

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Listen Up....

I absolutely agree with this quote! 

Our patience is often tested through life. If nothing is happening know that GOD is up to something. When everything is happening and you feel like it's just too much to handle, know that GOD will never give you a load you can not carry! 

Patience is a virtue....Literally!!! Understand that on this journey of life we can only take the footsteps toward what we want to happen. Just because you feel you have the perfect "blueprint" to your life, doesn't mean it'll go exactly that way. They say we live in a "microwave society" because we want everything right away! Sometimes those "road blocks" in life are needed to show us the fruit of our labor. Don't give up! Stay focused on that big picture and remember...Your timing is NOT his timing!

As always...Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!!

Self Reflection....

"Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have no time to criticize others"!!

Some people are so consumed with other people's lives that they rarely take the time to "self reflect" to see what needs improvement in their own life.  

There isn't one single person on earth that has a perfect score across the board. I believe no matter how well put together things are in your life, there's always something that can use improvement. 

Instead of criticizing the next person's life, choices or mistakes, take that same time and evaluate your own life! 

We only get one life to live....

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Q.O.T.D..."Stand Out & Stand Above"

"Stand Out & Stand Above"

I love the above picture! To me it speaks volumes!! 

There's nothing wrong with being an individual! To me, that's the best way to be! You find so many people trying to live for others, trying to impress others, & trying so hard to fit in. I've never really understood this! Life is a journey...YOUR journey! So in this journey be yourself NO MATTER how "different" you may look or feel! Do what makes you happy & spend time with those that love you for you!

No single person is perfect, we all have flaws/imperfections!! Realize that those same flaws/imperfections are what makes you- you. Maybe those flaws/imperfections are there for you to focus on and work harder on you! Whatever the flaw, whatever the imperfection...love yourself, go hard for yourself, and know that we all have a purpose and not being yourself will stop you from seeing that purpose! 

When you're being yourself, you're being real, & real people appreciate that. Believe it or not, it's noticeable when people are not being themselves and living or doing so to impress the next just to get "cool points" so to speak. 

So remember to "Stand out & Stand Above"! No need to follow the crowd.....you might get lost in it! 

Until next time and as always...Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!

QOTD!

"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you greater than any obstacle".

-Christian D. Larson

This 'QOTD' to me is self explanatory!

I often always talk about how believing in YOU and investing in YOU is so important! You have to know that you are strong enough to overcome, to prosper, to achieve, to succeed, to just simply be greater in all that you do. We all have that inner spirit that talks to our self conscious about our life's journey so to speak, how we want more/better and/or ideas on how to achieve more/better. When that happens often times people will shut down or question those thoughts/feelings which will then place a doubt in your mind making you feel as though you aren't able to concur these things. 

Understand that each and every one of us are built uniquely in our own skin for a reason. To me, that reason is to shine in YOUR OWN light. Bring to life those things you want to achieve, stop doubting your strengths and capabilities. Put your good foot forward and GO. Remember...there's no failing in trying! 

Until next time and as always... Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!

Quote Of The Day (QOTD)!

"Never Allow Yourself To Reach The Realms Of Ignorance or Irrelevance"!!! 

What does this mean to you and/or what comes to mind when you read this? Everyone can have their own different perception of course. One's opinion is not right nor wrong, it's simply how you view it! Your view just may enlighten me to see it another way. 

What that quote says to me is:

No matter the situation, stay grounded in what matters! Everyone will not agree with me, everyone will not like me or the way I look, my thoughts, my beliefs etc., and they absolutely don't have to. Sometimes people will have a negative comment toward something all because they disagree or because they just want to be negative. You have to remember that's just their opinion, not a fact. Yes, we are all human and we have a heart which means we may be emotionally affected by it. But, by you entertaining the negativity not only are you stooping to their level of ignorance but you are also giving energy to irrelevance! 

Keep doing you! Keep it cute and keep it moving!!! 

Until next time and as always...Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!

Your Past Does NOT Predict Your Future...

This is another segment of "Thankful Thursday's"!!

In honor of the 49er's recent win this past Sunday, this feature is dedicated to the 49er linebacker #52, Patrick Willis!

As the title reads "Your Past Does NOT Predict Your Future"...Patrick Willis is a living example of just that. This story, based on the life of Patrick Willis, was a special that ESPN E60 did 3 yrs ago. I saw it then and it still has the same emotional affect over me today. 

Patrick Willis is a prime example that you don't have to let the hurts or setbacks you may have once faced in life hold you back from progressing. His determination and focus got him where he is today despite the pain he's endured. As you watch this video, you will see his drive to not let his past determine his future, his ambition to succeed, his love for his family and most importantly his humbleness! Even though he's "made it" in life with all the glitz, glam and success, he remains thankful and this is why I'm dedicating *Thankful Thursday's* to one of the BEST linebacker's in the NFL today....Mr. Patrick Willis!!

Please watch his awesome story below:

If having problems viewing this video here's the link: http://youtu.be/XvZqyoWcGrc


Hope you guys enjoyed this heartfelt story as much as I did!


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Thankful Thursday's...."Faith is EVERYTHING"!!!!!

We all have our days when we feel we have the weight of the world on our shoulders and may feel it's impossible to keep going. People may say "oh, it's going to be okay, or it's not that bad" etc. Easier said right? But, it's actually true! I know at that particular time you may feel like they have no clue as to what you're going through and in actuality, they just may not & are just trying to give words of encouragement! But, it WILL be okay. After every storm there's a rainbow & every test gives us a testimony! So remember that, dig deep & keep going!!! Life is a journey. On journeys you'll have bumps and maybe even some detours but it's how that journey ends that makes the story! We've all heard success stories about people going through trying times but the most relevant part about their story is....even going through they NEVER gave up which is why they are where they are today! A great support team is very important but at the end of the day YOU have to be your biggest and #1 cheerleader! Tell yourself daily for whatever it is you want to accomplish..."I CAN do this & I WILL do this"! When you put positive energy out....you receive positive outcomes! I said all this to say, NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!! HAVE FAITH THAT ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE & know that there's someone with less than you, smiling more than you which says a lot!! I recently watched a very touching video with my husband and thought I'd share with you! After watching this, I was even more thankful, faithful, emotional & my spirit wanted MORE OUT OF LIFE!! 

Please watch!

Hope this inspired you to go out and make your dreams a reality! Nothing happens overnight! Progress is a process!! Never give up, keep your faith & you will succeed!!!

Until next time and as always...Thanks for checking out my blog: TwithTally!